A Plan For Weaponized Incompetence

What is Weaponized Incompetence you ask? It's described as a romantic partner playing dumb where chores or responsibilities are concerned in an effort to skirt being a fully contributing member of the household. The partner will convieniently forget important dates, be unable (for no discernible reason other than laziness or lack of interest) to help with the children or chores in the household unless they are constantly nagged, often ending in poor to unsatisfactory results. This commonly causes a deep imbalance in the relationship, resulting in stress and frustration for the partner taking on the all the duties, severely impacting their emotional and mental wellbeing.

The Takeway: What you can do about it?

Clear communication: If you struggle with effective communication, which many of us do, consider first how you respond to stressful situations. Being in a constant state of fight or flight can hinder how we communicate by affecting our active listening skills, reading non verbal queues and thinking on our feet and further more distorting the message we wish to convey.

Set boundaries: Sometimes letting things be is the solution. By this we mean, allowing the other person to recognized that their inability to finish the job has consequences for the family. For example, if they didnt do the dishes means no plates for food. Basically be assertive and stand your ground about your point of view.

Consider couple's counselling: We believe this is one of the most effective ways for couples to understand each other, communicate effectlvely and arm themselves with interelationship conflict management techniques.This only works though if both parties are willing and open to working on the relationship.